I GUARANTEE THAT I WILL FIND YOUR ADOPTED CHILD’S AMENDED NAME OR YOUR MONEY BACK – for real!
Birth Family Seeking an Adoptee
KNOW YOUR ADULT ADOPTED CHILD’S NAME WITHIN 1 MONTH and THEIR CURRENT LIFE STATUS AND LOCATION IF AVAILABLE!
I guarantee that I can find your adopted child’s amended name (birth record). Of course I cannot guarantee I will find where he or she now lives, as sometimes people die, vanish for no reason at all or may even be in “Witness Protection”. (This is very rare, but possible). Common sense will tell you that, so please don’t come back at me with “you guaranteed you would find them”. I did my job, and the fact is that I did find the name of the person you are looking for and now you know it too. Their current life status and location I will also deliver if possible. I will cover every corner I come by to try and do that, but sometimes, people just disappear for several reasons. However, you will now know their name and that is more than you knew all these years!
I will check the death index and the SSDi.
I will check marriage records, possible 2nd adoption and legal name change.
I will check public records for last to current living locations if available.
I will check public newspaper articles for all family member names.
If they cannot be found…….
THIS IS JUST A ROAD BLOCK AND NOT A DEAD END
What can you do now that you have this information. You can contact the vital records department and order a non certified copy of your Birth certificate since you are a biological family member and now have the BC#, if you did not request me to do that for you.
You can write a letter to the Adoption Research Program in Madison and request an original copy of the amended birth record since you can now provide them with a birth certificate number and prove you are a related. You may still have to petition the court if this is important to you, but keep in mind that the laws may still prevent this. But anything is worth a try! ***It has just come to my attention that Wisconsin laws have changed and if seeking a birth parent, and they are in fact deceased, they will release their identity. This may also apply to a sibling seeking an adopted sibling or parent seeking their adopted child. I have not validated this myself, as of yet, but if they are infact deceased, I would think they would release that information to you as well.
Even though your adopted family member is now an adult and free to make their own choice on whether they want contact with you as it is no longer the adopted parents choice, this is still a very fragile situation that demands respect for a person’s privacy. Tread lightly and try to do things in a respectful, tasteful manner. I know your eager to find your loved one and have longed for them for many years, but we have no idea how they actually feel about it. They may in fact have been looking for you as well, they may not want to have contact (and you need to respect that, but leave your information in the event they change their minds at a latter date. This happens more often than you know), or they may just not be reachable due to reasons we cannot control.